Jun 20, 2021I Had to Teach My Husband How to Parent — Because Society Didn’tI met my husband in Afghanistan, (I know, I know, war is not a time for ‘Deployment Boos’, we were told), and we were immediately a great team from the start — which was good, because we went through the ringer to have our relationship. From the moment he met…9 min read
Jun 13, 2021Just Take the Day: Mental Health Days, PTSD & Invisible InjuriesWelcome back to Coffee & Culture & even though I’m a veteran who now longer drinks coffee (I know, can’t be trusted), for todays’ lead up to the Army Birthday, I think we shall discuss PTSD, C-PTSD & how important it is to take, & talk out loud about, mental…Mental Health7 min read
Jun 6, 2021Hot or Not: When Not to Comment on a WomanToday, we will talk about how to comment on someone’s photos online — without being a creep. No, it’s not impossible, but yes, it might require you to stop & change patterns of behavior. #dontbeacreep The first thing we should establish is that this is mostly a male problem. Sorry…6 min read
May 23, 2021Celebrating Memorial DayMy birthday weekend is Memorial Day weekend — which means nothing when you are growing up abroad, but in US High School you’ll learn quickly that you can’t have a birthday party — because everyone is travelling with their families for the holiday. Then, I joined the Army, all of…10 min read
May 16, 2021The Language of Culture Change: When O’s and A’s and ‘Guys’ Matter More than We ThinkI got up in front of the room of women, all eyes locked on me, the witch under the spotlight. Not kidding, I was literally dressed like a witch. I’d be giving my first class on networking/community building, crafted specifically for military spouses, with all the challenges inherent in that…Language8 min read
May 9, 2021You Were Not the Best Mom in the WorldMom, This Mother’s Day, I’m thinking of you — like every other child in the world is thinking of their own mother. And I wanted to write you something, to make you a gift of my thoughts. But what can I say?… You were not the “Best Mom in the…Mothers Day6 min read
May 5, 2021Beautiful and StolenI have five missed calls. The sight of it stops my heart. Two years ago I was an Army Captain getting important phone calls all the time. …Military Spouse13 min read
May 2, 2021The Only Woman on the SandThe noise of two giant Army helicopters taking off is deafening. The silence, after you and 25 of your closest colleagues have jumped off the back and they’ve taken off, leaving you alone and stranded just outside an Afghan village, is sobering. As the dust from the rotorwash settles, I…12 min read
Apr 25, 2021From Bible Women to War Games: My Journey with Internalized MisogynyEarlier this week, I shared a single tweet on my own experience with internalized misogyny, & then I got told to, essentially, watch my tone or I might make all women look bad — by a bona fide women’s hero. My journey with internalized misogyny started when I was raised…Misogyny9 min read
Apr 11, 2021Understanding Privilege: For Our Children & OurselvesGot a question the other day: “I’m confused about white, male privilege — I’m trying to be more aware, but I have 3, white boys who I can’t raise not to be white men. What do I do?” Let’s chat a little, & I’ll share some resources that worked for…White Privilege6 min read
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