A Cult Survivor Learns About Movies

Daniella Mestyanek Young
3 min readFeb 23, 2021

I asked my Twitter followers to help me crowd source a list of “classic” movies that I should see. You see, I grew up in the Children of God religious cult, and we weren’t allowed hardly any movies. I spent my teens and 20s making straight A’s, working multiple jobs, and going to war. Now I’m finally deciding to catch up on some of the pop-culture I’ve missed. (Check out my crowd sourced playlist on spotify, too)

The rules were, only one per person.

If you helpfully decided your movie judgement was more important than everyone else’s and gave me a whole list, only your first made the list —because rules; just be glad you didn’t get nixed.

Here it is:

The Lives of Others

Big Trouble in Little China

Fifth Element

Stripes

Highlander

Walk the Line

Fast, Cheap and Out of Control

Stand and Deliver

Life of Brian

The Adventures of Baron Munchausen

Stand by Me

Streets of Fire

The Waterboy

High Fidelity

Fight Club

The Adventures of Buckaroo Banzai across the Eight Dimension

Little Big Man

Forrest Gump

Casablanca

The Rocky Horror Picture Show

The Witches of Eastwick

Captain Fantastic

Better Off Dead

Grosse Pointe Blank

Mad Max: Fury Road

Tommy Boy

Burn After Reading

Melancholia

Clue Man on Fire

The Big Lebowski

Princess Bride

Reservoir Dogs

Night of the Hunter

Kung Fu

Hustle

The Money Pit

The Hunt for Red October

Shawshank Redemption

Blazing Saddles

The Americanization of Emily

The Fifth Element

The Fountain

The Martian

How to Train Your Dragon

Miracle

The Godfather

Addams Family Values

Fern Gully

Pride and Prejudice

Fire Birds

Moulin Rouge

Dr. Strangelove

The Labyrinth

Jurrasic Park

That Thing You Do

Arguing with Myself by Jeff Dunham

Steel Magnolias

October Sky

Fever Pitch

The Usual Suspects

The Mighty

Willy Wonka and the Chocolate Factory

Spitfire Grill

LA Confidential

Legends of the Fall

My Blue Heaven

Pulp Fiction

Lord of the Rings

The Godfather

Fear and Loathing in Las Vegas

The Great Escape

Tombstone

Clerks

Training Day

Four Weddings and a Funeral

Much Ado About Nothing

Butch Cassidy and the Sundance Kid

Drop Dead Gorgeous

Jaws

Animal House

Near Dark

Citizen Kane

Layer Cake

Caddy Shack

Young Guns

Top Secret

The Crow

A Few Good Men

Leon-The Professional (Luc Besson)

Truman Show

Blade Runner

Priscilla, Queen of the Desert

When Harry Met Sally

Die Hard

Saving Silverman

The Royal Tenenbaums

The Matrix

Star Trek IV: The Voyage Home

Babette’s Feast

The Mummy

Live Die Repeat

The Breakfast Club

Top Gun

Creed McCabe and Mrs. Miller

Hackers as 90s Kids

The Muppet Movie

Goonies

Harold and Maude

Spirited Away

Say Anything

Clueless
Persuasion (1995)

The Departed

Dogma

Raising Arizona

Ten Things I Hate About You

Master and Commander

Star Wars

The Court Jester

Raiders of the Lost Ark

Iron Man

2001

I Robot

To Wong Foo

American History X

The Impossible

Donnie Darko

Happy Gilmore

Boondock Saints

Good Will Hunting

If a Man Answers

Le Grande Boeuf

Joy Luck Club

Kurosawa’s Seven Samurai

Apocalypse Now

Yojimbo

Monty Python’s Holy Grail

Crouching Tiger, Hidden Dragon

The Third Man

How I Learned to Stop Worrying and Love the Bomb

Office Space

Snatch

Muppet Treasure Island

Eternal Sunshine of the Spotless Mind

My Cousin Vinny

Apollo 13

Dazed and Confused

August Rush

Heart and Souls

First Wives Club

The Barbarian Invasions (Denis Arcand)

Seven

The Secret Life of Walter Mitty

Hot Fuzz

Tropic Thunder

No Country for Old Men

Skyscraper

My Man Godfrey

V for Vendetta

Mulan

Equilibrium

Idiocracy

Inception

Lawrence of Arabia

The Good, the Bad, the Weird

Ice Pirates Pirate

Radio

Tremors

And there you have it. I have some interesting thoughts about how I may work my way through the list.

Daniella Mestyanek Young is an American author and TEDx Speaker. Daniella has been breaking through barriers and challenging authority figures since her earliest childhood memories growing up in the horrifying Children of God Cult and on through her service and deployment to war twice. Daniella served as part of the first group of women who integrated into deliberate combat arms missions back in 2011 and has since spent the majority of her time leading in veteran service organizations to try and help folks heal and find their own definition of success after their service.

Daniella is married to the world’s best special operations helicopter pilot and speaks primarily in Brazilian Portuguese with her daughter, who sasses her back in three languages. Daniella is currently at work on her memoir. She can be found speaking speaking truth to power, irritating vetbros and stamping out the kyriarchy on Twitter @daniellamyoung. She can be contacted at daniella.m.young@gmail.com

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Daniella Mestyanek Young

Author, Speaker, Mom, Childhood Cult Survivor, Combat Veteran, loud-mouthed culture critic | Repped by Dystel